What is the good news for all of us who are fighting temptation?
A while back, there was a study about long-term thinking presented by PBS where kids one at a time were promised another marshmallow if they could resist for fifteen minutes from eating the marshmallow in front of them on a dish in the middle of a table. This study has been revisited and proven effective enough to predict adult success with long-term thinking.
The study found the key to not giving in to temptation is not fighting with it by trying to resist it but to get into the habit of distracting yourself from looking at the temptation or thinking about it.
The kids who received the extra marshmallow for being able to not eat the original marshmallow for fifteen minutes used various strategies to avoid confronting the marshmallow. They did things to keep the temptation out of mind and sight. Some sang or danced while not looking at the marshmallow and some got on their hands and knees under the table and played games with imaginary friends, etc.
Distraction rather than confrontation was by far the best strategy, so be aware, and find at least one really good distraction to use. Then what? Should I begin to build up a variety of enjoyable and productive distractions which will allow things to start changing for the better?