Down through the ages wise folks have said having to have something makes the something harder to procure.
If so, why is this? If you want something, it probably means a lot of other people are wanting it too, so the commodity is harder to come by or will cost more than it should. Is this also true for happiness which comes from inside of us?
It seems the best way to experience happiness is not to pursue it but to become involved in doing things which are interesting and productive and forget about happiness, and then somehow happiness keeps showing up as a side effect.
So what’s the best strategy for getting a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Is it to become satisfied with not having one?