temptation

What is the good news for all of us who are fighting temptation?

A while back, there was a study about long-term thinking presented by PBS where kids one at a time were promised another marshmallow if they could resist for fifteen minutes from eating the marshmallow in front of them on a dish in the middle of a table. This study has been revisited and proven effective enough to predict adult success with long-term thinking.

The study found the key to not giving in to temptation is not fighting with it by trying to resist it but to get into the habit of distracting yourself from looking at the temptation or thinking about it.

The kids who received the extra marshmallow for being able to not eat the original marshmallow for fifteen minutes used various strategies to avoid confronting the marshmallow. They did things to keep the temptation out of mind and sight. Some sang or danced while not looking at the marshmallow and some got on their hands and knees under the table and played games with imaginary friends, etc.

Distraction rather than confrontation was by far the best strategy, so be aware, and find at least one really good distraction to use. Then what? Should I begin to build up a variety of enjoyable and productive distractions which will allow things to start changing for the better?

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free folks

Why should the beliefs and behaviors of any religion be forced upon the general public? And…

Why would any religious group want to force or have to force its beliefs on others? Does this type of behavior show to the world these folks probably feel a lack of attractiveness and perhaps are power-hungry and may feel threatened by a secular society?

As for the rest of us, how would their domination over nonbelievers solve things for these folks? Would any law based only on religious teachings or beliefs violate our right to freedom from religion and our pursuit of happiness?

Why do religious wars fill so much of human history? Are religious conflicts usually about domination rather than about freedom? If so, why do we free folks put up with religious zealots and their politicians who would love to guide our thinking and be able to tell us what to do?

Should we bring attention to the stupidity of what they are trying to do and to how it makes them appear? Are they seen as haters rather than lovers?

Don’t they know that forcing nonbelievers to live by their arbitrary religious beliefs is wrong and causes free folks to despise them and their god and their dictatorial ways?

What are they afraid of? Do they feel their god has called them to deal with what they call the evildoers? Is it that they want to help god do its dirty work?

Is their job by their own definition to bring their “good news” to everyone and not to be bringing pain and suffering to those they should be loving?