life is a search

If life is a search for purpose and completion (often called “meaning”), what type of life is best? One type is about the desire of making lots of money and is tempting but crowded with sharks of many descriptions where large sums of money can be made and lost by participating.

There are other ways to live where there is one satisfactory completion after another and where there’s love, joy, peace, and gratitude.

Both rich and poor and almost all in-between are in existence’s constant here and now-ness and are constantly thinking, breathing, getting thirsty, working, being hungry, interacting with people, and getting older, yet we don’t know we are missing most of reality, and for humanity, it has been this way for a long-long time.

So, I ask myself, do I have to be rich or famous to live a meaningful life, and I’m thinking…of course not, living a meaningful life is what freedom is about. How do we opt out of the race for fame and/or riches for an normal, everyday life, given the chance?

Maybe by asking “Is there more to life than the race to have fame and more than enough money to survive and retire on”? Why can’t we have our cake and eat it too? Is it up to us?

Here’s the key question. Why wait to become rich or famous in order to relax and savor life? If we wait, relaxing and savoring life may never happen for us. Why do we keep straining?

Knowing we’re already home and set (not having to have the expensive toys of wealth) gives us different options. Plus, taking time to slow down can allow us to see better the speed and direction to go. Relaxation and savoring life has a way of bringing interesting thoughts and trails into our lives.

As we slow down, we are able to notice and appreciate more of what life is full of.

One can be relaxed while building a fortune if one knows a sure way to build a fortune and is willing and able to apply the knowledge without worry or stress by knowing it’s just a matter of time.

What is the need to worry or hurry when we are already content? It’s strange but true…not having to have something makes it easier to obtain.

Can unapplied knowledge come back to haunt us? Yes, it’s called guilt. It’s a psychological instrument we know how to use…by pushing it on others or having to pull it.

Notice guilt for what it is…a reminder. It bothers us or it doesn’t, depending on what it’s about. How strong can guilt be when it’s rightly ignored? Guilt is part of the “would-a” “could-a” “should-a” tradition and has a use or it wouldn’t exist.

notice and relax

Is persistence the best resource? Even better than talent?
How would one live if approval is no longer needed?
How does one fix things so hurrying or rushing is not a problem?
By not putting things off?
Is life like sports in that “Every play makes someone happy.”
Why use positive language?
How do I set a stress alarm so I’ll notice and relax?
Does doing something constructive help dissolve worry and guilt
and give meaning in return?
Why blame or complain? Does it give an excuse for whatever?
How does giving an excuse make one appear?

self help

I recently read an article in Scientific American magazine by Cognitive neuroscientist Scott Weems and the following is a summary of the article.

They (the scientists) show participants several instances of judgmental thinking and then they tell them Try to notice similar thoughts when they occur. Then they tell them If you can notice when you have negative or positive thoughts about your own thoughts, it will aid you in recovering from whatever is causing you to be depressed, guilty, etc.

To help ourselves we need to create the habit or skill that prompts us to notice our thoughts (rather than be continuously enveloped in them) and then to analyze or judge them as positive or negative.

Since we don’t have the scientists to guide us, how do we get this technique working for us? I can suggest relaxing the mind and body and while relaxed make a formal request to our brain to do us a big favor. Ask, Once or twice a day please assist me to notice my thinking so I can make a judgment about it. Keep on asking daily until the brain begins to help us to notice the contents of our thinking.

Once we begin to find out about our thinking, these scientists assure us that we will be helped by the use of this new skill. What is this new skill? The ability to become aware of how we are coming across to ourselves.

The 3rd summary: We can assist ourselves by being able to pass judgment on our own judgmental thinking.

cliff of guilt

Do I thank my lucky stars for spiders because they keep the insects off of me? Sure, but how often do I thank them for this unbelievable service? Where’s this going? Is it over the cliff of guilt? Is it that if it’s not one thing, guilt is the other?

Is guilt a good thing? Is guilt part of our make up because if we couldn’t feel guilty, the earth would be a very different place and perhaps we humans wouldn’t even now exist?