there are only situations

Sometimes we think something is blocking our way or is hindering our way to a certain destination. We turn to look in a different direction and see a new way, but it too has a catch. When we look around we observe a circle of deterrents surrounding us.

What is wrong? We we have trained ourselves to come up with the worst case scenario about what can come from a particular situation. If we ignore it, our opinion of it stays the same? Or we can come up with a way to deal with it.

We can drop the deterrent because we judged it to be. We thought is was a barrier. We can start a new habit of coming up with ways a situation is not a deterrent. Practice make permanent. It’s why we see barriers because we have practiced and have become very good at it.

We all are creators. So, we can use that ability to change the way we imagine things to be. We can start to think and act as an observer of each situation. This will allow us to come up with new ways to think about what seemed to be a deterrent.

Eventually we will find out there are no actual deterrents and will stop believing in them. We can observe situations and think “Should I ignore it or wait and see if there is opportunity here?” Or we can wonder if we go around it, what will we find there? etc.

There are only situations, and each one is another opportunity to observe. We need to get in the habit of observing without making judgments.

It’s not easy but the results are astounding. We normally judge almost immediately. It’s a habit and a hard one to break because we’ve always done it.

Here’s a situation and everything which has happened since the Big Bang has caused it. So it’s perfect as it is and cannot be avoided. So, the next situation is our contribution to the situation’s lineage.

We should practice recognizing our judgments. When we do judge and realize it, repeat something like this…“There I go judging again.” Growth and change begin with that statement.

the changed life*

Once there was a person who was a mean miser and was saved from hell (converted to a religion that teaches there’s a heaven and a hell), and the mean miser became a generous person to church and society and is now known to be a very good and pleasant person to be around. And God is credited with this wonderful change.

At the same time a second mean miser who was nonreligious decided to reform himself and succeeds and shares his wealth in the same manner the “saved” miser did and the “unsaved” miser is now also known as an gracious and entertaining host.

So, can the changed life be used as a proof of God’s existence or non-existence? Is it that no arguments are needed because of the absurdity of the idea of an all-knowing, all-powerful and perfect-record-keeping God exists who rewards and punishes forever and ever?

Do the believers in magical things happening after their deaths, believe it because it feels better having some type of religious insurance?

A good slogan might be “Don’t die without a policy from The Everlasting Life Insurance Company.” But there’s a problem: There are an awful lot of companies selling “Everlasting Life” policies and each company’s policy has different conditions and each is claiming to be the only one that will pay off.

The cost of this religious insurance is usually about ten percent or less of one’s income and faith: the belief in miracles and a never-ending suspension of disbelief: living in a house built on magic which probably is not as safe as a house built on sand.

Is this the reason why so many of the simply nonreligious crowds live compelling lives while many sincere believers in religious magic live lives spending a good part of their time trying to pass laws which would force others to live by their religious rules. Are these folks being misled? Shouldn’t they be leading by example and not by force?

Why do so many conservative religious folks, who are usually wonderful, loving people, spend so much of their time doing and supporting things which cause people to despise their actions and cause folks to dismiss their god too, all the while they could be doing what was asked of them to do: convert the unsaved by delivering the gospel while living authentic religious lives by displaying “the fruits of the Spirit” rather than trying to force others to live by their religious beliefs without truly believing them?

Any advice? Call to others, don’t try to force others. All you will get with force is resistance. Call using the good news not by calling your congress person to make sure homosexuals cannot get married or to make sure a poor mother cannot get the abortion she desperately wants and needs. Let your God do the judging and punishing. Your all-powerful and all-knowing God has prompted you not to judge.

Does attacking the rights of minority groups injure and insult their liberty and hinder their pursuit of happiness and reveal the attacker’s desire for power over others?

Is a mentally challenged person closer to the truth than those who come with magical promises claiming all of the promises are 100% true?

* It may seem that I’m angry at Christianity. I’m not. I am a former evangelical missionary and know Christianity is filled with loving and gracious folks. However, from my vantage point now as an outsider, I can see a very powerful portion of Christianity has lost its focus and is creating a false image of their true mission. So, I am preaching to them by giving a message that can assist in getting these wonderful people back on task. I realize that many of these folks will be outraged to think that a lapsed Christian like me could have anything helpful to say to them and their leaders about their getting off message, but some may hear and respond, and it’s possible that it might make a difference and change their minds about things like taking food out of the mouths of children who happen to be born into poor families. If Christ were real and walking the earth today, he would probably classify these particular Christian folks as pharisaical. The beautiful thing about Christian beliefs is those who have misstepped can be forgiven immediately and a few seconds later can start moving down a better path.


like a parachute

Is it that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it shows up?
And then we can’t wait to judge it?

Could this new thing or idea be like a parachute, and if you pull the right cord or turn the right handle, it becomes huge and affects everything around it? Or not, because the cord or handle hasn’t been found or it has none. Or the idea or thing could easily be judged worthless.

The question is Will we ever put in the effort to find out? We ask, What odds are enough or beliefs strong enough to make us commit?

Some get what we want
Some want what we get
Some have what we like
Some like what we have
Some love to live
Some live to love

What are we up to?
Living and loving and dying and disappearing?



The religious fundamentalists can’t tolerate homosexuals because they believe gay people are committing terrible sins which should not be allowed in a decent society. Do they want homosexuals to follow religious rules they haven’t taken up as their own? Why are they are asking the rest of society to be prejudice toward homosexuals?

Are the fundamentalists pressing on in their attempt to save our country from what they believe is a scourge, and all the while, not being able to see themselves as being a scourge on our country for persecuting the innocent?

Why are Christians trying to punish gays? Their God specifically encourages them not to judge and to leave the judging to God. What are they thinking?

Maybe they’ve gone so far with what they believed were good intentions, they think they will lose face if they admitted these dear folks should have the same rights they have. Would just the opposite would happen? Wouldn’t we all begin to think “Maybe the Christians aren’t ignoramuses”?

Both science and psychology have found homosexuality to be not something you choose later in life as a way to live. Science and psychology agree homosexuality is present from birth. So why burry your head in the sand?

Living as a straight person while being gay is a choice many homosexuals make because of religious folks trying to force others to think homosexuality is not natural for homosexuals.

It seems to me allowing gays to marry might spruce up marriage a bit and give it a better reputation.

Is it that homosexuals don’t think of themselves as sinning? They may reason something like this: “Since I was born a homosexual, I didn’t choose it. And if there is a god, the god made me the way I am.

Why do many Christians live in such an intellectual desert? Have they placed their trust in the wrong venue, their leaders?


the ego world

Is it that in the regular world—the ego world—wanting something too much generally makes it very hard to get? And if you do get it, is it soon replaced by something else you must have? So for the ego, does the carrot on a stick go on until the end of a lifetime?

Does working consistently with a daily practice ease the way for the biggest of things to arrive unannounced and without a struggle?

Does the wise and supporting mystery already ride the wave of my being in whatever direction it goes without judgment?

Must there be regular periods of relaxation combined with non thinking with no purpose except to be fed by the fountain of the present?