whatever happens

help work
things out, and

is whatever happens
here to help


what leads to happiness (R rated)

Only cheerful teasing allowed
Keeping promises
Making firm decisions (see keeping promises)
Sharing see “Keeping promises” (kp)
Relaxing (see kp)
Exploring (see kp)
Persevering (see kp)
Giving (see kp)
Complaining only when necessary (see kp)
Doing: being able to act (see kp)
Being big enough to do what’s there (see exploring)
Getting in too big of a hurry during a crisis (see relaxing)
Following through (see kp)
Realizing that being right every time is boring
Loving the feeling of saying “so that’s what it feels like to be wrong” and laughing
Risking but not too much (see kp)
Relaxing (see kp)
Sometimes changing the subject to one where something can be learned or enjoyed
Settling differences with patience
Coming through (see kp)
Yielding to long-term thinking (see kp)
Reading and learning (see exploring)
Socializing in a loving manner
Self pleasuring
Doing what it takes to not be needy or greedy



Could improving my life be as simple as getting in the habit of noticing more – paying more attention without judging too much or not at all?

What about happiness? If I seek happiness and at the same time do not have to have it, could I learn better how not to chase it but to just let it happen and then notice when it disappears?

Does pursuit cause the pursued to naturally run away? What will attract happiness back once it’s gone?

Below is an excerpt from my book Discovering the Obvious. A representative, from the creators of our universe after relating how they created it, shares their greatest discovery and some advice with us, advice that we already know deeply but don’t go there very often. The representative’s name is Teller.

“We know that you would like to know if other self-aware beings share your universe. We’re not going to reveal whether others share it or not because we think that telling you might take away from your adventuring, and your ability to surprise us as well as your ability to surprise yourselves. However, we will leave you with our greatest discovery and what we think is some good advice.

“Here’s our greatest discovery: The chance to work toward achieving happiness with the possibility of failing to achieve it and the possibility of losing it once it’s been achieved combine to make existing as a self-aware being worthwhile. You might summarize it this way: not being able to know for sure how things will turn out is the backbone of happiness.

“Our advice to you is about how to go about pursuing happiness or satisfaction. The first thing is that you shouldn’t try too hard to achieve either one. Trying too hard can cause what you seek to be continually just out of reach which is frustrating and causes unhappiness and dissatisfaction. You might want to think of happiness or satisfaction as a cat. When you show a great desire for a cat to come to you, what will happen? Most cats will usually move away from you or ignore you. What will happen if you ignore the cat and remain patient? It will usually, in its own time, come to you to receive your attention.

“You may be asking, So, what do I do while I’m waiting for happiness or satisfaction to come around? We suggest that you find something interesting to do and apply yourself, and whether you are working or relaxing, get in the habit of doing it well, and then, while you are occupied and not having to have happiness or satisfaction, one or the other will find you. And as you keep on doing a good job of working and relaxing, happiness and satisfaction will continue to find you again and again.

“You already know these things but sometimes it helps to be reminded.

“Adios for now, Teller”

finding a way to relax

What a wonderful game – to seek pleasure – to escape boredom and suffering. Is the game a time eater? A lifetime eater? A natural trap?

How can I be content just to be? Would it require me to be in the present? How can I notice the present? What would it require? Does it only require waking up? If so, how to wake up? Realizing I am asleep? Then doing what it takes to wake up? Which is? Could it be finding a way to relax the mind enough to end thought for periods of time and then during these periods of silence not expect anything but be ready for the everything?

Doesn’t running away from suffering use almost all of my time? How do I change so that I can begin to use time differently? Must I see deeply that the war against suffering can’t be won? Is war just another way to suffer? Is it that almost every soldier feels that God’s on his or her side? And does this give war its noble tint?

Must I see deeply that society is a group dream just as I’m a dream? And a real dream just as I’m a real dream? An idea which doesn’t take up space? But takes up the true currency, time? Which is ok, naturally.

So, where’s the real non dreaming? Is anything permanent? If pleasure were the default mode, would I work and strive for moments of pain? Or would the two words pain and pleasure simply change their meanings?

If there could be a resting place where could it be encountered?


the playing field

Is it that finding one’s way out of one’s own normal, invisible, complex-dream condition can’t be done by proxy or by just asking?

Is it that all spiritual paths are individual even if some appear to be similar? Is it that everyone, in the end, is his or her own spiritual guru? The sages say that experiencing full awareness delivers a first-generation religious experience.

Could the greatest heroic act be the identity giving up itself on behalf of the being? Is this the adventure that many seek out when they begin to realize or suspect that there’s a lot more to life, and money, good works, power, fame, popularity or even poverty can’t make it happen?

Can a limitless world be discovered through a tear in the tent of language? Is finding time to relax the mind and actually relaxing the mind an art or is it warfare or is it both?

The sages say that seeking is the same as missing.

But they also say that seeking is fueled by desire.

And it’s desire that gets us into the ballpark.

The ballpark is the understanding there’s more to life and it’s available. And that more is communing with our body and the universe.

Getting into the ballpark eventually allows us to get out onto the playing field.

The playing field is a daily practice.

And a daily practice (some type of meditation) gives us the chance to get into the game of bonding with our own being and the universe.

And the game’s goal is to become silent on a regular basis and the sages say this makes us bait for the universe.

The above was taken from “The Adventure of Adventures” which is a sermon out of my book Discovering the Obvious which can be found at amazon.com.