forget about happiness

Down through the ages wise folks have said having to have something makes the something harder to procure.

If so, why is this? If you want something, it probably means a lot of other people are wanting it too, so the commodity is harder to come by or will cost more than it should. Is this also true for happiness which comes from inside of us? 

It seems the best way to experience happiness is not to pursue it but to become involved in doing things which are interesting and productive and forget about happiness, and then somehow happiness keeps showing up as a side effect.

So what’s the best strategy for getting a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Is it to become satisfied with not having one?

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there is no one secret

Is there a secret to living a satisfying life? There is no one secret. There are a few simultaneous activities that can lead to having a satisfying life.

Almost all counselors are advising folks that meditation can take the edge off of things that keep us unsatisfied, and many of us continue to ignore this wise advice about this powerful one-of-a-kind tool.

Among us are folks who say “No thank you, I can make it in life without a crutch. Meditation is for wimps.” Are their minds closed or frozen? It’s their identities talking, not their beings.

The results of meditation (consciously relaxing and allowing language to peter out and then basking in the silence) are backed up by science.

Meditation is good for us. It’s high quality mental rest. And when we rest this way on a regular basis, the better this high-quality mental rest becomes and improves us as identities and relaxes us.

Why wouldn’t we take advantage of such a valuable tool that’s free? Well, there’s the time it takes, and it’s not easy to establish a daily practice. These are very good reasons but shut out the possibility of communing with your being.

Here’s
why and what
happens with meditation:

A person’s ego is threatened by meditation because it feels it may loose its captain’s chair and no longer be in charge of its being, the human animal, and it also fears it might disappear completely, so it makes excuses and can give reasons why to not meditate today which is highly tempting because the ego is the one who put forth the reason and so agrees with itself. Understanding this is the way forward.

We tend to think meditation is a medicine for what ails us, which is true in a sense, when we can just as easily think of meditation as a better way to live: ignoring the medicine mindset and replacing it with a regular ingathering of healthy mental food in which silence is the main course.

Also (I’ve found out at least for myself) the older one gets (I’m 74), the healthier it is to eat paleo foods and to keep being active.

As I mentioned above, there are a few simultaneous activities that can lead to having a satisfying life. In my opinion they are: good food, good exercise, good relaxation, good fun, good work—daily or almost daily. Everyone on earth should have the freedom to earn and to choose and establish these activities…it’s an uphill road to get there but not impossible. Throughout history, time and time again, humans have accomplished what was thought to be impossible.

growing older

I ran across this wisdom on the web and
could not find out who said or wrote it.

“Don’t regret growing older.
It’s a privilege denied to many.”

Might I add
The quote fits everyone but the young
Such a lovely truth beckons the thought of death
Do the ongoing reminders of existing no more
Have ways of creating meaningful and
Satisfying lives

 

satisfaction

Could improving my life be as simple as getting in the habit of noticing more – paying more attention without judging too much or not at all?

What about happiness? If I seek happiness and at the same time do not have to have it, could I learn better how not to chase it but to just let it happen and then notice when it disappears?

Does pursuit cause the pursued to naturally run away? What will attract happiness back once it’s gone?

Below is an excerpt from my book Discovering the Obvious. A representative, from the creators of our universe after relating how they created it, shares their greatest discovery and some advice with us, advice that we already know deeply but don’t go there very often. The representative’s name is Teller.

“We know that you would like to know if other self-aware beings share your universe. We’re not going to reveal whether others share it or not because we think that telling you might take away from your adventuring, and your ability to surprise us as well as your ability to surprise yourselves. However, we will leave you with our greatest discovery and what we think is some good advice.

“Here’s our greatest discovery: The chance to work toward achieving happiness with the possibility of failing to achieve it and the possibility of losing it once it’s been achieved combine to make existing as a self-aware being worthwhile. You might summarize it this way: not being able to know for sure how things will turn out is the backbone of happiness.

“Our advice to you is about how to go about pursuing happiness or satisfaction. The first thing is that you shouldn’t try too hard to achieve either one. Trying too hard can cause what you seek to be continually just out of reach which is frustrating and causes unhappiness and dissatisfaction. You might want to think of happiness or satisfaction as a cat. When you show a great desire for a cat to come to you, what will happen? Most cats will usually move away from you or ignore you. What will happen if you ignore the cat and remain patient? It will usually, in its own time, come to you to receive your attention.

“You may be asking, So, what do I do while I’m waiting for happiness or satisfaction to come around? We suggest that you find something interesting to do and apply yourself, and whether you are working or relaxing, get in the habit of doing it well, and then, while you are occupied and not having to have happiness or satisfaction, one or the other will find you. And as you keep on doing a good job of working and relaxing, happiness and satisfaction will continue to find you again and again.

“You already know these things but sometimes it helps to be reminded.

“Adios for now, Teller”

the go-to thing

Is life itself with its powerful creativity
and awareness the soul of the human animal?

If so, does my soul provide for me even after death?
Do I, the identity, cease to be when my ride dies?

What is the go-to thing that can provide support
for the troubles of a complex dream?

Is this need for assistance the crown which builds up
religious beliefs as its support in the form of the promise
of an eternal life of happy satisfaction and enjoyment?